Missing Home Sweet Home, and How to Deal with it

Levina Candita| 16 June 2024

 

Have you ever felt sad because you remember that you can no longer hear the sound of your mother cooking, or perhaps the sound of the news channel on television that your father is watching? Have you ever suddenly missed the taste of home-cooked meals, or the atmosphere of your bedroom? If you have, you experienced something called ‘homesickness’, or the feeling of sadness or distress caused by separation from the place and the memories within (Oxford, n.d.; WebMD, n.d.). 

While more than 50% people have experienced this at least once in their life, homesickness mostly affects people who moved both temporarily and permanently, such as students, migrants, refugees and people in the military. Particularly for students who just entered university life, the transition from living at home with family into living far away from home is significant. However, this transition can trigger different experiences; either they consider it as an excited adventure, or feeling distress and overwhelmed to independently manage their lives (Thurber & Walton, 2012). Furthermore, international students may be greatly affected because of the cultural differences and language barriers. 

Speaking of cultural differences, it is one of the main things that causes homesickness as it emerge feelings of not belonging. Hence, someone may still feel like an outsider even though they are already familiar with their surroundings (WebMD, n.d.). This is a concerning condition especially if there is a huge difference between cultures which will make it even more difficult to adjust.

 Besides the feeling of not belonged, homesickness are more dangerous than how it sounds. A journal from American College Health (2012) reported that 7% of people who lived away from home experienced similar symptoms with anxiety and depression. If not treated further, it can negatively impact different areas of psychological functioning that lead to lack of memory, reduce concentration and social isolation–or even worse, it is reported that students who experienced homesickness are three times more likely to withdraw from school.

Having learned about the serious effects on a human’s psychological state, then what is the best way to at least reduce homesickness?

Acknowledging Our Negative Emotions

When you’re feeling homesick, you may experience mixed ranges of emotions like sadness, worry, and anger. Instead of denying or judging yourself for feeling homesick, it is better to keep in mind that homesickness is a normal part of human life and that you shouldn’t blame yourself for feeling that way. It is even better to find positive outlets to let out those negative emotions such as meditating, journaling/writing, arts (drawing), dancing, exercising, or whatever else is comfortable for each person (Guarnotta, 2023). 

Stay Connected

During the adjustment process in the new place, you can maintain a sense of connection to your home by connecting with family members and friends through texts and calls, or perhaps talk to them about what you feel. However, things are working differently with social media. While texts and calls work best for staying connected, scrolling through social media will increases the feeling of out of touch with surroundings (Calm, n.d). Hence it is best to directly contact them rather than just looking at their updates from social media. 

Not only maintaining connection from your home, you must also start building connections within your new place. Especially for international students, you can find any clubs, activities or communities that work best for you to surround yourself in a familiar and comfortable  environment. 

Transitional Objects

According to therapists, transitional objects are items that can become our source of comfort as it may remind us of our home, such as blankets, photos, stuffed animals, or even foods (snacks) (Guarnotta, 2023). Furthermore, personalising your new space by decorating it according to individual needs. For instance, you can stick your polaroids with friends, or  fill your bed with some cute stuffed animals.

Explore Surroundings

This is a further step if you already start to feel comfortable in your new place. Create new memories and familiarise yourself in the new space by visiting a comfortable place such as a cafe, public parks, library, basically any spot that sparks your interest. Maybe you can find your new favourite place so that you even feel more comfortable carrying your activities in your new  environment.

Take Care of Yourself

Most importantly, and I want to emphasise it here, is to take care of yourself very well. In a medically-reviewed article, Guarnotta (2023) states that there is a clear connection between how well you take care of your physical condition and how you feel emotionally. Make sure to set some new routines that works well for you, eat healthy foods (fruits and veggies, protein, grains, etc), exercise a bit and have a healthy amount of sleep (approximately 8 hours of sleep). 

Homesickness is indeed a challenge for people who moved away from their family and friends, and it is normal to feel that way. While  it is something that can’t be avoided, find out the best way from these tips to make you feel less alone, overwhelmed, or anxious, and I hope you can realise that moving away is a part of your journey and transition to a better version of yourself. 

Reference List

Calm. (n.d.). How to deal with homesickness? 8 tips to ease homesicknes. https://www.calm.com/blog/how-to-deal-with-homesickness

Guarnotta, E. (2023, August 30). Homesickness: Signs, Effects & 7 Ways to Cope. Choosing Therapy. https://www.choosingtherapy.com/homesickness/

Oxford Learner’s Dictionaries. (n.d.). Homesickness. In Oxford Leaner’s Dictionaries. Retrieved 6 June 2024, from

Thurber, C. A., & Walton, E. A. (2012). Homesickness and Adjustment in University Students. Journal of American College Health, 60(5), 415-419. https://doi.org/10.1080/07448481.2012.673520

WebMD. (n.d.). What to Know About Homesickness and Mental Health. https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-to-know-about-homesickness-and-mental-health

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